Let’s be realistic: married life can’t be like one continuous honeymoon that goes on forever. However, it doesn’t have to be one continuous winter either.
Your married life should be full of life, laughter and warmth if you want it to survive for the long term. Here are some tips on how to tip the odds to staying happily together…
When you choose to marry someone, I’m sure you are in love with the other person at that point in time. However, you have to lend reason to your decision too. One of the most important things to consider is whether you and your partner hold the same values and beliefs.
Marrying a person who has different goals from yours is like getting aboard a rowboat together and proceeding to row at different directions. A marriage built on conflicting principles will have tendencies to result in frequent conflicts between both parties.
Overtime, the love you share with the other person could easily wither due to the constant adversity and conflict.
Even if you and your partner have the same values to start with, realize that you are not static creatures and your values and beliefs may change with time. A marriage with established communication channels is one of the underlying reasons why it will succeed.
When you and your spouse have no barriers about saying what you want and mean, there’s no room for misunderstanding. Obviously, communication should be two-sided and you should not make communication as an excuse for continuous harping.
Once something’s done, said and forgiven, move on and be happy again. Likewise, when your partner has something to say, listen.
It is not wrong to want to be with each other all day long. However, it is unhealthy for a relationship if you always give in to this desire.
Each of you should have interests and activities outside the sphere of your marriage. Set a day every week where you can shop, dine, or do anything you would have normally done if you were still single.
This way, you’ll remain growing as distinct individuals and will have much more to share with each other.
Intimacy is physical and emotional closeness. However, you need to understand that sex only makes up a part of it.
There are other forms of showing affection like touching each other or a simple hugs and kisses. This should be propelled by an innate need to give comfort and be comforted in return. As for sexual relations, I recommend that you let go of your inhibitions and do whatever feels right to you and your partner.
In essence, intimacy is a form of physical and emotional give and take. It is the a crucial factor that could strengthen bonds and make your marriage the haven it is supposed to be.